4 Tips for dealing with Difficult People

Let’s face it, some people are just much easier to deal with than others. Why do some people seem so willing to go with the flow and accommodate others, while some seem relentlessly rude and passive-aggressive? Instead of letting the bad behaviour of others effect how you feel about yourself, try to understand why they are behaving this way, and adjust your reaction to it.

1. Feeling invisible

Being ignored feels like the height of disrespect – making us feel as if we don’t exist. A person who senses that their needs are not being met may become difficult by acting like a child to get the attention they feel they deserve. Once you realize that this is what is happening, you can respond with compassion rather than anger.

2. Fearfulness

Many people become difficult out of a sense of fear. The greatest fear we have is that of not being heard, and understood. Regardless of whether this is true or not, it feels very real to the person experiencing it. If you feel that this is the case with the difficult person you are confronted with, approach them with kindness and try to move them away from these negative feelings with your words.